I think that in life, we're often asking this question when things go wrong and we in turn cannot be self reliant. We expect others to pick up the slack where we cannot and reflect on two things:
- Were my own expectations for this person to high? or
- Why weren't they there when I felt as though I needed them?
I've found the answer to both questions and yes I am oooober optimistic. Perhaps its that our expectations for ourselves are too low. We need to understand that with life comes disappointments, and that the way we deal with them are whats important. Why spend time pointing the finger at other people for what actually is what we feel?! Its NOT THEiR fault that you are reacting to the situation the way you are.
And as for the second question... we stand alone! A close person to me once said "we were born alone and we'll die alone". I don't trust that person. But I appreciate the lesson that they taught me. In the end, we stand alone!
Let's play with a scenario fuckers... lets say your so called new best friend in college told the whole class about every single sexual encounter that you've had in your matriculation. Its not uncommon to have a blabby friend spill your juice.
How do you deal? Typically, upon discovery you'd be pissed, and overreact. If you were to look at my REESIAN philosophy you would look at yourself. Question why you shared such intimate details with the twit. Then, resolve to never be so foolish, and share such unneccessary details. Then, rather than to eliminate your BFF from your life, you'd realize that a title on your relationship doesn't make the person worthy of everything in your life, and continue to be "friends" without stipulations nor expectations.
We live, We learn, and We love, but where in the life handbook does it say we must trust. I just don't think that's neccessary.
Personally, I don't trust none of y'all hoes.
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